The relationship of husband-wife or lover-girlfriend is based on trust. This relationship is as beautiful as it is delicate, in which even a small wave of doubt can make the sweetness of the relationship bitter. It often happens when people start checking their partner’s phone due to doubt. Actually, the desire to check the partner’s phone can be due to many reasons such as insecurity towards the partner, trust issues and bad experience in the previous relationship. But in reality, many women and men have the habit of checking their partner’s phone and many times they keep looking for this.
Gurleen Barua, psychologist and executive coach with ‘That Culture Thing‘, says, “Generally, it is not acceptable for one partner in a relationship to check the other’s phone, even if they are allowed to do so. This issue is very complicated and many important factors need to be taken into consideration.
She says trust is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Checking your partner’s phone undermines this trust and the natural confidence you have in each other. Privacy is important and violating these boundaries can damage the relationship.
He further said, ‘Checking your partner’s phone can start a cycle of suspicion and fear that never ends but keeps on increasing, due to which your partner always feels insecure and sometimes his/her actions can even become aggressive.
The habit of checking your partner’s phone can become an obsession, especially if there is relationship OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) started getting surrounded by situations like this. This starts a cycle of obsession, trouble and compulsion which starts affecting both mental health and relationship to a great extent.
Barua says that clear communication is very important. Instead of spying, partners should discuss the reasons for their insecurities and work on them together. This approach promotes a stronger and more trusting relationship.
Increase trust in the relationship with these methods
Maintaining confidentiality and transparency in a relationship maintains balance in the relationship. Here are some ways through which you can remove doubts in your relationship.
Open Talk: If doubts arise in your relationship, then the partners should talk about it. Also Discuss how to protect both confidentiality and transparency. Agree on what information should be shared and what should remain private.
Keep the trust: Both should work to maintain consistent honesty. Trust grows when partners feel secure and confident about each other’s actions and intentions. So always try to prevent misunderstandings.
Respect personal space: Respect your partner’s personal space instead of constantly probing each other. Respecting personal space is good for you and good for the health of your relationship.
Source (PTI) (NDTV) (HINDUSTANTIMES)